Posted by Dinah on August 13, 2006, at 14:40:28
In reply to I think you've just identified the problem..., posted by Racer on August 13, 2006, at 14:27:38
I know this is easier said than done. But if he complains about the housekeeping can you just breezily say that you haven't had time to do it because you were too busy studying, or cooking dinner, or whatever you were too busy doing?
Just because he complains doesn't mean you're a bad person, or a bad wife, or a bad homemaker. It just means he's complaining. Or that he wants things a certain way. And if he wanted it that badly, he'd do it himself, so it can't be that big a deal to him.
I complain all the time that I want stuff hung on the walls, and my husband never gets around to it. I could get angry, but that wouldn't be productive. Or I could decide to learn how to hang things on walls. I guess if I ever want things hung bad enough, I'll do the latter.
Not doing what your spouse is complaining about immediately isn't all that unusual in a marriage. :)
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