Posted by bent on August 9, 2006, at 17:25:06
In reply to Loving therapist/progress, posted by thewrite1 on August 7, 2006, at 18:35:18
> I feel like I'm in love with my therapist. I >know I'm not. It's more like I'm in love with >idea of her. She's well old enough to be my >mother.I am in this same boat. Sometimes I wonder how I can love my T when I dont even know her. But it is the idea and image we create. My T's daughter is like 4 years younger than me! I hate it!
>I've been crushing on older women since I was in >grade school. I always thought there was some >part of me that's gay even though I'm happily >married. Turns out I was just looking for a >maternal figure, especially the affection one >gets from their mother. My mother was >unavailable to me through the years when a child >needs their mother the most. Now the little >thewrite1 is trying so hard to fill that hole.I wrote a poem one time about trying to fill that hole. Every peice I tried to put there never fit perfectly. I know what it feels like. My mom was very emotionally unstable when i was growing up. I too attached onto older mother-figures all through school. I know how it hurts. I long for something to fill this hole and to hold me.
> My therapist tells me that best way to do that >is to be a good mother to yourself. That >usually leaves me wanting to slap her, so I >haven't figured it out yet.
Yes! It's easy for T's to say that. My T has said it too. But I dont know how. Have you gotten any where with this?
> I'm kind of mad at her right now for being on >vacation, but I know I'll get over that. All in >all, I feel like I've made tremendous progress.
> Anyway, I don't know if this will be helpful to >anyone, but it sounds like a few of you are >going through these types of feelings just now. >Just thought I'd share.Thanks for sharing. Its nice to hear about some one in a similar spot. Vacations are rough but its wonderful that you can see your progress. Keep going!
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