Posted by thewrite1 on August 9, 2006, at 2:11:57
In reply to Re: Loving therapist/progress » thewrite1, posted by ElaineM on August 8, 2006, at 9:41:16
Thanks for your kind words.
> So you think that the pain of having, and addressing your feelings of love have been worth it in the long run?
Yes, I absolutely do. Searching for a maternal figure to love has taken me to some bad places in life. I feel safe in loving my T. I know she's never going to love me the way I want, but I also know that I'm better for it. I don't have to worry about, "What am I going to do to screw up this relationship?" Though she doesn't and won't return my love, she accepts it. She accepts me.
I, too, have tried to find mothers out in the world. I was fortunate to find one. She was the mother of a close friend of mine. I could talk to her about anything and she never stopped loving me. She died about a decade ago and I've never found anyone to fill in for her until my T.
> I can see what you mean by it being frustrating being told that you need to mother yourself. How do you learn that, if you didnt' ever get to experience it?That's the question!
> Vacations are hard. Summer's kinda cr*ppy that way. If it helps the time pass to post here, by all means post away :-)It came at a bad time due to some of the stuff we were talking about, but I'm thinking I may make a separate post about that tomorrow. (Getting to be my bedtime).
Take care and nice to meet you!
thewrite1
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