Posted by inimitable on August 3, 2006, at 13:46:45
In reply to Re: a little nervous, posted by ElaineM on July 31, 2006, at 20:54:39
well, i did it and it went fine. i went at about 11pm and it was still slow, so i played a game of pool to kill time till the dancing really started. and of course some nasty guys came along, a bachelor party, and the one guy ended up saying that he has a list of ten things he needs to have a woman do for him before he gets married. i told him i'm not a very *giving* person. he was fine with that and left me in good spirits. and then another guy came along and asked if i wanted to play with him and his buddies. i was gonna say no, in fact i did, but then i changed my mind, what's the harm? i'm glad i did play pool with them. i hung out with them the rest of the night, and before the dancing even really started i told them that if they danced with me, i had a no touch policy, and i wanted them to know that so they don't get the wrong idea. they all thought it was cool i let them know and that i had that policy. they respected it! one of the guys (jay, i'll talk about him a bit more) even said he thought it's cool cause a lot of girls don't have respect for themselves and will get up on any guy in the club. he really seemed to be impressed by me, in that way. so anyways i hung out with them all night, mainly talking to jay, and was dancing, oh i had a great time dancing, even though i felt a tiny bit weird, since i wasn't at the club with anyone i really knew. see, the thing is, i danced with jay a couple of times, but he's not that much of a dancer and to tell you the truth i don't really know how to dance with someone else, like in a club type setting (since i have a no touch policy, with strange men at least), so i didn't really like to dnace with him,. but i kind of felt obligated not to dance with anyone else either, although quite a few guys tried to dance with me, i just danced away from them. i think it was a mixture of feeling obligated towards jay and also that most of the guys that tried to dance with me just got all up on me, TOO close, and i don't like that. i'd rather have a guy ASK me, between songs, if i'll dance with him to the next one, then i would let them know my policy and stuff. anyways, i'm trying to get to the point.....
jay ended up giving me his number, i called him a dayand half later (mon) and we were gonna hook up that night. he called me an hour after he was suppossed to be at my place and said his van was having some troubles and he'd be at my place in about 45 minutes. he also said he was surpirsed i'd called him cause he didn't think i would (i got the idea he had kind of low self esteem) and i let him know i was looking forward to hangin out with him. we hung up, i waited for three hours (about 9pm) no phone call. i wasn't upset really, i was annoyed at the fact that he didn't even call to cancel, a waste of my time (not that's i'd be doing much else) but still. so not really upset. see he smokes and there were some qualities that i didn't really care for in the guy, but i was gonna give him a chance, get to know him a bit, but i figured, hey, i didn't really want to date a smoker anyways, so why waste my time! so i was fine. then he called back tuesday night about 9pm. a whole day later. i called him, cause i thought, well, maybe he was embarrassed about his van breaking down, and had low self esteem....i'll give him one more chance. so i called him, we made plans for wed at 530pm. AND AGAIN he never showed. i was annoyed again, but also kind of relieved, cause i was feeling a little iffy anyways cause i realized i don't want to settle for someone who smokes unless they have someother qualities that make up for that, and this guy didn't, and so i knew there would be a point, if we did get together that i would have to let him know that this wouldn't go anywhere.....so anyways i'm kind of glad, but also wondering how crazy this was! it's never happened to me before. but hey, it took my mind of my T for a little bit! oh, you know, i found out my t smokes!!!!! yucky! sorry to all those smokers out there, hope i'm not offending, do not mean to, it's just not my cup o'tea! but see, i'd still go out with my t, although it wouod never happen, because he has other redeeming qualities that make up for it. well anyways this is WAY too long, sorry, thanks for reading it!*inimitable
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