Posted by daisym on July 13, 2006, at 12:41:08
In reply to Re: An Emotional Therapist » Daisym, posted by Dinah on July 12, 2006, at 7:43:42
>>>>>Is it possible there's a deeper fear involved? Manifested by being afraid that your therapist will reject you for sharing sad things? More a general fear that you're too much, or that sad things are too difficult for anyone to bear, or that it isn't acceptable to share bad things with someone else, that you need to hold them all yourself?
<<<<<<YES!! YES!! AND YES!!!After all this time, you'd think I'd be convinced he isn't going to kick me out or leave me. But it is a fear that grips me and won't listen to reason at all. And I grew up with the cardinal rule of not making someone else uncomfortable, if you can help it at all. Good girls are polite and defer their needs. When I broke my arm when I was seven, my parents were in the backyard. I'd fallen off my bike. I sat in the family room for 2 hours waiting for them to come inside because I didn't want to interrupt or bother them. I just held my arm on my other arm and didn't complain or cry.
How does one get over this particular fear? Especially when it is tied to someone who doesn't need you at all, so what binds them to you? There are lots of clients, so I'm easily replaced. This scares me to death.
I've been thinking about his age and trying to figure out when he might retire. So how many years do I have left?
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