Posted by fallsfall on July 12, 2006, at 8:37:38
In reply to An Emotional Therapist, posted by Daisym on July 12, 2006, at 1:46:23
>I feel so selfish and relentless in my pursuit to feel better. I'm terrified that it is too much again and that I'm going to burn out my therapist, or use him all up or something.
*** He will take care of himself. He has asked you to read the pages. He is consciously willing to do this with you.
>I'm terrified that I'm going to get into trouble and the punishment is no more therapy.
*** Who are you going to be in trouble with? You have talked clearly enough with your therapist that he knows what is coming. Why would you be in trouble with him for doing what he has asked you to do? Who else would you be in trouble with? Your dad? That is a very old fear - and one that was legitimate. But what would it mean now to be in trouble with your dad? Your father doesn't have power over your therapy.
>I even offered today to cut back to twice per week so he didn't have to see me as much. He said he thought that was a bad idea, that if I needed him, I needed him and that was OK.
*** He is telling you in so many ways that he is OK with what you are doing in therapy. Try to believe him.
>Is it? Is it really OK to make someone you care about so much, feel hurt and sadness? I felt so bad and yet I marched in there today and read another page. And he wants me to keep reading them. What if he gets tired of them? Or of me?
*** I think that you still blame yourself for what happened years ago. You are not to blame, Daisy. You have done nothing wrong.
*** He is joining you in your place of pain, so that you won't be alone there. He is choosing to do this. He is very skilled, and he will take care of himself.
*** And how could anyone get tired of you?
>I'm very scared tonight.
*** (((((...Daisy)))))...
Let's sit on your couch and I'll brush your hair. And hold you for as long as you want.
Love,
Falls
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