Posted by Jost on July 1, 2006, at 13:16:55
In reply to Re: and she called again. » wishingstar, posted by Dinah on June 30, 2006, at 22:44:39
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> My therapist has always been bad on the phone. I always thought it was that he didn't want to encourage nonbillable contact. But even after he realized that not only would I pay him, but I'd actually insist on it, he's still rotten.
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> Some therapists depend heavily on their presence I think. Maybe she's one of them.
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> I'm sorry you don't have more support when things are so stirred up. I try to have my therapist wind down emotional sessions about ten minutes before we leave. Having him help me calm down helps a lot. Do you think your new/old therapist could help you do that? Or moderate the amount of arousal in a session?
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>That's interesting. My T does the same thing. He has a routine, more or less, which starts about ten or fifteen minutes before the end and involves a sort of five minute shift again. He moves his clock, among other things. He'll also say directly "we have to end in ten (or five minutes).
He's also awkward on the phone, if I"m upset beyond a certain point. I think he feels back and doesn't know what to say, and then (I'm imagining) feels as if he's let me down. He has said that being in the same place is too important in our relationship for the phone to be a good substitute, at times.
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