Posted by wishingstar on June 12, 2006, at 23:34:00
In reply to How bout this?, posted by muffled on June 12, 2006, at 22:55:53
Oh muffled, I could have written that exact post myself! My greatest frustration over time with my T has been that she wont push me, even if I ask her to. Every week for probably 3 months I asked her to, but she stood her ground. I considered finding a new T too.
My T always uses the analogy of a diving board or the edge of the pool.. she says that she'll sit on the edge with me, but she isnt going to push me in, because she doesnt believe that doing so would be the best way to learn. It used to make me so mad when she said that.. but I think I get it now. I dont know about you, but when I was a kid, no one ever supported me and what I wanted to do. It was always sink or swim. So it was frustrating when my T wouldnt "play the game" too... but then it hit me that really, she is being really caring, and taking care of me, just not in the way I expected to find it. Your T pushing you too hard, even if it is how life can be sometimes, wouldnt be very nice and wouldnt help to keep the space safe for you.
I dont know if you can relate to that even a tiny bit... it's just what I discovered for myself. Maybe it'd be worth it to have a discussion with your T about that very topic - why wont she push you? There may be a very good reason that you'll be satisfied to hear. Hang in there. I'm sorry youre feeling so frustrated.
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