Posted by Dinah on June 9, 2006, at 12:50:49
In reply to A new book on SI? And IVY league students cut too?, posted by orchid on June 9, 2006, at 12:33:20
I have several good books on SI. Some of them help me feel understood, and some of them have ideas for reducing the behavior.
But I didn't reduce the behavior until I was faced with the knowledge that someone really cared. Not that they thought it was odd or disgusting. But that they cared about me enough not to want to see me hurt, even by me.
And they didn't put it that way, and I didn't really understand it that way, until I held my son and told him that, in exactly those words. But even though I didn't understand, it made me want to quit SI for them, even if I didn't care enough to do it for me.
Which is all a very long way of saying that intellectual reasoning and books didn't help all that much. It took an emotional motivator to help.
But the books did make me feel less alone and helped me reframe my behavior.
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