Posted by Tamar on May 30, 2006, at 5:05:43
In reply to My therapist won't help me with what I want, posted by Dinah on May 29, 2006, at 21:23:18
> Almost every time I come up with a goal, he disagrees with it. This time he won't help me quit work, or almost quit, until he's sure it's what's really in my best interest. Which is my therapist's way of saying he doesn't think it's in my best interest and he wants a chance to convince me of that before flatly refusing to help me.
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> Sigh.
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> And I can never convince him that I'm right. :(
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> He will however help me come up with cute little cards to read every day to improve my attitude. Blech. As if he thinks my will is such that cute little cards can change my attitude. Snort.
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> I guess to his credit, he suggested it after I expressed the wish that I was the sort of person who could see the choice ahead of me and say I'd be happy either way, instead of seeing it and saying I'd be miserable either way. He agreed but admitted that in the years he's known me, he can't see me reacting the former way, only the latter. Then he suggested helping me with the cards. :(I think Daisy’s answer was spot on.
I also wonder to what extent you will really be able to remain just a little bit involved. Will you be tempted to take on more work if people ask you to do something extra? Or will you be able to protect your time?
And I was wondering if you’ve talked with your therapist about the ways in which that particular job represents aspects of your connection with your father, and what it will mean to give up from that perspective. And of course how you can find alternative ways of honoring your father’s memory. Of course, I’m sure you do have other ways, but I wonder if giving up your job might leave a gap that needs to be filled…
Just my two cents,
Tamar
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