Posted by wishingstar on May 12, 2006, at 20:57:52
In reply to T wont stop talking!, posted by wishingstar on May 8, 2006, at 22:51:40
Oh boy. She called back. She said she was available between 8 and 8:30, and interestingly called at 8:27.. thought that was weird. But anyway.
She basically said that she hears that I'm feeling hurt and angry and that shes glad I told her.. she kept saying referring to my feelings being because she "wasnt available like I'd hoped she would be" but that felt sort of devalidating to me. It's that she said she'd call during the morning and didnt. That's why I'm hurt. I feel like her wording makes it sound like I'm just super sensitive (which I am, but still) and overreacting. I dont feel like that's true. But who knows.
I wasnt all that nice on the phone.. I know I had a bit of an attitude and wasnt saying a lot.. and what I did say was probably kind of dismissive.. but I'm mad!
The thing that upset me the most from the whole conversation (which only lasted maybe 5 min) was that she never said sorry. I wasnt hoping for any drawn out apology, just a "I'm sorry I didnt call" would have helped so much. As it is, I dont feel like I can trust her one bit.. but an apology would have at least laid the first brick so I could try to step back into trusting again in the next few weeks. Without it, I'm feeling way too guarded - and I think it's for good reason - to try to trust her again.
I'll see her Monday. I'm planning to let her know how mad I am, but that will be easier said than done.. it's so easy to slip into the people-pleaser role for me. We'll see how it goes.
Thanks ALL of you for your support with all this.
poster:wishingstar
thread:641585
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