Posted by orchid on April 17, 2006, at 14:09:30
In reply to I love you guys!, posted by Tamar on April 16, 2006, at 8:02:14
Hi Tamar,
Belated Happy Birthday to you.Nice to see you posting again.
And am happy that you are hanging in there and trying to work out issues with your T.
I like the idea of symbolically leaving your issues with your T. I think it will be of tremendous help. But of course, I would be very scared to share my photos (if I had taken like that) with my T. It could be very powerfully healing for you, but I think it might also make you worried in the long run. Like in case your transference comes back in full force later, you might regret at that point about these photos. Also I might be personally worried about the safe-keeping of these photos - I wouldn't want them unintentionally getting into the hands of anyone else in case my therapist was not very careful, etc etc.
Also, in case he doesn't react well to the sharing of these photos, it might end up hurting you very much. IT is hard to show such vulnerability on our part and to take any *less than a great response*.
What I would think the right thing to do would perhaps be, take these photos with you, and ask him before hand if it is ok to show them to you (tell him before hand, it involves brief nudity etc), and if he says ok, then show them to him, and discuss them in your sessions, but bring the photos back with you. I wouldn't want them in my file or in the records. And after you talk about these photos and what it means to you etc for a few sessions, maybe at that time you can decide to give him something which might be appropriate at that time - either a letter, or a rag doll, or even one of these photos where there is no nudity, or if you still decide to at that time, the entire set.
What do you think?
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