Posted by fallsfall on March 29, 2006, at 19:36:41
In reply to Why should I feel overwhelmed? long and negative, posted by Racer on March 29, 2006, at 17:53:23
>>I wanted to say, "Damn it -- I'm scared, and feel as though you're turning your back on me when I need you." But, of course, kept my mouth shut, because I didn't want to sound so over-demanding. I wanted to ask, "Have you mentioned to your manager that your wife is having surgery, so this week you'll be in late because of that?" Didn't want to look nagging or controlling. Mostly, just didn't say any of it.
I'm sorry you don't feel supported. I'll support you. I like helping with your math. Ask away.
You need to tell your husband how you feel. He needs to know. Even if your feelings were to be out of the bounds of normalcy (which I don't think they are, by the way), he STILL needs to know how you are feeling. I know it may take a while to get to that point - where you can admit to how you are really feeling. I hope the marriage counselor can help with that. Or maybe I'm naive... I just figure he can't meet your needs if he doesn't know what they are. If he knows what they are, then he might choose NOT to meet them. But he might choose to meet them. If he doesn't know what they are then I'll guarantee you that he won't meet them.
I will be with you in spirit tomorrow. I hope things go well for you. Give us an update when you are up to it.
(((((Racer)))))
P.S. I really liked your top...
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