Posted by Racer on March 27, 2006, at 12:52:27
In reply to Re: Yep, I've internalized my mother's criticism, posted by B2chica on March 27, 2006, at 9:56:28
> can my 'mother' join? she'll let your mothers know what they're doing all wrong, then come and let me know what i'm doing wrong and go off in her world where everythings great.
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> > > And I still want Mommy to love me, and to make Mommy be proud of me. What's up with that, huh?
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> > *sigh* Me too. Our moms should get together. Your mom could make comments, and my mom will sit and smile and not take in a single word that's said. My mom doesn't exactly, er, engage herself. More like she's presently absent. It hurts as much as if she'd uttered critical words.
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> > I hope that you were able to sit and observe what was going on (it sounds like it - good for you!) without taking it on.
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>How come all our mothers know how to devastate us so well? There must be a Mom School where they learn to mortify their daughters...
'Course, to bring it all full circle, Mother has a n Erika Oller card framed on her kitchen wall, "She came. She criticised. She left." (Here's a resin figurine of it -- I couldn't find it on paper: http://www.beladagio.com/catalog/_she_came___she_criticized___she_left__figurine_2881323.htm ) Every time I look at it, Mother says, "That's there in honor of my mother -- because that's what she did."
Oh, well. Guess it's a good thing, really. Gives me something to talk about in therapy...
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