Posted by Dinah on March 21, 2006, at 18:13:31
In reply to Re: Back to that identity thing again... » daisym, posted by fairywings on March 21, 2006, at 15:13:29
My therapist never ever tells me that. He stresses that I need to fulfill my obligations, especially the ones to my family, whether I feel good or not. But he never tells me to fake it till I make it, or anything along those lines.
He knows I did that for close to eighteen or so years, and that it caused me long term harm even while it served me short term to function.
That being said, depending on a person's personal coping style, it might be a useful thing for some people to do. Maybe even many people.
But useful things for even many people can't be generalized to all people. It's up to each of us in the end, hopefully with the help of a flexible and intuitive therapist if needed, to work out what we individually need to bring balance to our lives.
Of course, while I've obviously given this an inordinate amount of thought, the conclusions are mine alone, and I don't expect that they will be a consensus opinion. :)
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