Posted by Susan47 on February 21, 2006, at 15:16:29
In reply to Re: on knowing 'too much' about your T, posted by Dia on February 21, 2006, at 13:26:31
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It's harsh but I always thought that if someone was stupid enough to write out something really personal on the internet, then it's their own fault if they end up feeling 'violated' because somebody else read it.
Ouch. Maybe if it was a stupid thing to do, that would be all right. But please don't infer that someone's stupid to write out personal stuff, no matter where it is. ... Thank you. :) I suspect if we were all just a bit more open about who we really are, and not have so many reasons to be afraid, it would be a wonderful place to be, this world.
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> I really am trying to not look as much at his stuff and I thought of some reasons for why I do it. I get really jealous. If I found out he was emailing with another client or even seeing another female client around my age I would be furious. I'm also jealous of his wife, we've met and she definitely does not like me. I was also trying to find things I disliked about him so I could stop thinking he was so wonderful but unfortunately that didn't really work. But I would never ever delete any of his e-mails, read them before he has or try and sabotage his account.The kind of thing you're doing to your therapist (how much therapy can you be getting if you're violating him so ..?) ... I suspect that's the kind of thing that makes others afraid. I hope your therapist knows who you are. Because what you're doing is destructive, you know. You're hurting yourself more than anybody else, but if he found out, he might be hurting too. If I found out something like that, I would be rightfully furious. Don't you think he might be too?
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