Posted by Emily Elizabeth on February 7, 2006, at 9:43:33
In reply to It doesn't matter..., posted by Voce on February 7, 2006, at 0:37:41
Have you considered writing a letter to T1 and T2 about this issue? You could use the letter more as a way to address your own feelings abt things rather than as a form of formal, legal action. In a letter you could describe your thoughts clearly and have control over how emotional you get. I'm not saying that there is a proper level of emotion here, but I know that I personally always do better in letters b/c I don't start crying when I want to appear tough or start yelling when I want to be calm.
A letter might prompt them to explain themselves, clarify things, and (hopefully) appologize. It might even make them think twice before doing something like this again.
If things played out like you think that they did, I do not mean to excuse their misbehavior. Their actions were unethical. Period. However, it sounds like you had a positive relationship with both T's. I imagine that they still care very much about you and may have been trying to help you (although you didn't find their "help" helpful). It sounds like they may have been very sloppy with the laws, but not malicious.
I want to be very clear that I am suggesting this possibility not to let them off the hook, but because I want you to know that this isn't because they don't care about, don't like you, etc. Those would be awful feelings to be left with.
Please take care of yourself and keep us posted.
Best,
EEP.S. Today might be a good day to treat yourself to something special--ice cream, a new shirt, a bubble bath?
poster:Emily Elizabeth
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