Posted by fairywings on February 3, 2006, at 19:02:35
In reply to Hurting, posted by Daisym on February 3, 2006, at 0:16:02
Hi daisy, I have that need too...to be rescued. I don't know if it's the same for you, but at those times I want someone to hold me, take care of me, and love me, and for me to know that I'm the most precious thing in the world, and that I don't have to be strong if I want to feel sad and vulnerable. (I've never felt those things, so I guess I've never been rescued.) I guess part of growing means giving up that fantasy, getting past the crying inside, needing to be held and comforted, and told everything's going to be okay.
It's good that you've been able to express all of those feelings to your T, and he's been able to help you, and let you take your time working through it. It's good that you know he'll be there for you, and won't ever let you down.
I don't know how it would be for you if you had someone in your life who made you feel made you feel special. My husband makes me feel cared for (not special, but cared for), but he's never rescued me, or made me feel rescued. I don't know what it would take to feel finally past needing to be rescued, maybe feeling grown up inside, maybe taking care of the parts that hurt so badly. But if you let the parts that hurt hide, won't they just hurt more, and huddle up and cry and you can feel all of that? Do they just want to come out and just "be" with you, and feel what they feel?
Does finding more mature things to do make you feel better and stronger, or could it just be trying to avoid the hurt you feel?
Sorry you're hurting so badly right now. I hope it feels better really soon, and you find what it takes to feel rescued, or not need to feel that way anymore.
fw
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