Posted by JenStar on January 27, 2006, at 16:08:36
In reply to OCD is quite a bit better, posted by Dinah on January 27, 2006, at 10:50:01
hi Dinah,
sometimes I agree that life is all illusions. We're all just trying to keep busy to forget that we're going to die. I know that's morbid! -- but I think it's true.On the other hand, there are so many lovely things and people in life, that the illusion can be breathtakingly beautiful and fun (if done right.)
I fluctuate between feeling a)it's all illusion, and b)maybe it's illusion, but so what, I still intend to make the most out of this trip.
I hope you can push yourself toward the b) option, Dinah. I feel like you were there before, in the past, before things got so rough. Or at least closer, right?
In a sense you DID lose everything. Your grief can be real and true even if others lost more. I don't think our grief should be compared. I mean, compared to a person who lost a family member to the holocaust, my trials are trivial. Yet to ME they're not trivial; they're my LIFE. So I don't think you should feel guilty for feeling bad...
And things WILL get better; they always do. Keep faith in that even if you don't actually "feel" the faith yet. Things WILL improve.
JenStar
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