Posted by Pfinstegg on January 27, 2006, at 14:38:18
In reply to OCD is quite a bit better, posted by Dinah on January 27, 2006, at 10:50:01
Are you SURE you have "lost him"? He, I think, acted pretty erratic after Katrina (it was probably much more terrifying for him financially), while you stayed pretty steady through all of the loss and pain. But now, isn't he coming back to his house and starting to restore his life to what it was previously?
Also, you know, when we have different parts, one part can get the idea of detachment and the feeling of abandonment so strongly- sometimes from tiny things therapists do, like looking down at the wrong moment. Your T. had something major done to him, and has been probably struggling to survive as a professional. He inevitably let you down, but from all that I've read here, he has always been really with you, and has cared about you a lot. You've cared about him a lot, too. Wouldn't it be good to give this a few months, at least, to see if you can regain your attachment? As his life gets better, he's going to also get much better at helping you do that- as he has been during the past ten years.
If it just can't work out it would be because he isn't giving you the right conditions, there are other therapists for you, Dinah. Reading your posts over the past three years, it sounds as though attachment is just central to you- well, it is for all of us here. I think it's the vehicle by which we able to safely explore ourselves and grow. We didn't get that as children, so we are all trying to get it now- and we each deserve to get it as fully as we can.
Keep on letting us know how it's going, will you?
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