Posted by LadyBug on January 18, 2006, at 15:01:00
In reply to I did it, talked about the elephant today (long), posted by happyflower on January 18, 2006, at 13:51:36
This is good HappyFlower!!!
I'm glad you could take it in like you did and not feel rejected. I think you did a wonderful job of understanding what he was telling you. Don't you admire him more for being strick with his boundaries? He has to be good in order to deal with a patient's strong feelings towards him.
Another way I see "fate" is; I feel "blessed" to have been refered to my T. We have such a strong connection I often wonder if someone up stairs was and is watching over me knowing what I need in my life to help me cope with all the crap I've had to deal with. (Especailly in my marriage!!!!!...)
My T. has helped me stay balanced when I couldn't do it on my own. She's been awesome. I've had many times that I would love to see her outside of therapy and she always tells me it wouldn't be the same. I know it wouldn't.
In a way, the therapist/patient relationship is better than any other relationship. And sometimes it's more painful because it's so intense.
I bet you feel relieved that you were able to bring this up today. It will be ongoing for you both but I think it will be positive. You will learn and grow in ways that will help you. I know the feelings you have even though I see a female T. I still feel the bond and often ask or if she is just awesome at her work. If I ask her, she will tell me that she doesn't do this level of work with other patients, meaning we are really close and we've been working together for 9 years. I think I'll be going to her till she retires. I like what your T. had to say about seeing him just to be able to talk to him and if he's done helping you will you stop therapy with him. That's good.
I've sometimes thought I can't quit I like her too much, but I haven't accomplished all that I want to but I've come a LONG way!!!
I think I'll be working on myself for a long time to come and who knows how long that will take???
I'm happy for ya!
Keep us posted for what happens next. I can't wait to see my T. tomorrow, I haven't seen her for 2 weeks because of an unplanned surgery my hubby had to have last week. I did't want to put her above him so I cancelled.
LadyBug
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