Posted by Tamar on January 13, 2006, at 18:26:12
In reply to {sigh} I don't want to have been traumatized!, posted by Racer on January 10, 2006, at 14:41:30
> Anyone? Any comments? Especially if you've discussed why you object to hearing that you've survived trauma?
Sorry, I’m only online for 2 minutes and I haven’t read the whole thread.
But I’d agree that I object to hearing that I’ve survived trauma, for two reasons:
1. No one else really knows what I’ve been through, even if I’ve described it in detail; and
2. if I’d survived, wouldn’t I be doing better?So I still describe myself as a victim rather than a survivor. Maybe one day, when I’m doing better, I’ll be able to imagine myself as a survivor. At the moment, I still feel that the bad guys won.
I think the overcoming is the thing that happens BEFORE you become a survivor. But maybe being a survivor is about being able to overcome it.
I feel with my own situation it’s like a broken leg or something. It will never be perfectly healed; there will always be a weakness. But learning to walk again is worth doing. There, that’s my metaphor of the day.
I hope you feel better soon.
Tamar
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