Posted by daisym on January 10, 2006, at 23:30:37
In reply to Re: semantics DaisyM and » antigua, posted by Racer on January 10, 2006, at 20:52:52
It sounds like you are trying so hard to prove you aren't borderline that you are going to prove that you aren't anything -- you aren't traumatized, you aren't angry, you aren't splitting, you don't dissociate...and mostly you don't deserve any sympathy or compassion because you've taken too long to get over all of this.
Does that sound right?
I think you flinch at her direct assessment because you think perhaps you weren't supposed to be traumatized by the events of your life. Which is bs because we all are one way or another. Force of character can not stave off traumatization. Or hide it forever.
Mothers -- can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em. I'm the spitting imagine, I kid you not. We dress the same, talk the same, and have a similar work ethic. She is an awesome lady. We just have very different ideas about what a mother is, what she owes her children and who I really am. She takes credit for all of my achievements, even my children. And then turns around and tells me that "someday you will be able to get a job that will lead to real success" and she is sure I will be happy once my children are gone. After all she was...
*sigh*
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