Posted by jammerlich on January 13, 2006, at 14:05:41
In reply to Something I have learned from therapy, posted by happyflower on January 13, 2006, at 10:13:08
I'm certainly not happy in my marriage. And yes, my husband has become a jerk. But so have I, really. Neither of us is a real picnic to live with at this point.
I think we're so sick of each other that neither of us feels terribly motivated to be particularly kind to the other. Who was a jerk first? I don't think it even matters anymore. It's a vicious cycle. I think either one of us decides to suck it up and be kind and compassionate (so the other feels like being kind and compassionate in return) or we're done.
Right now I'm trying to decide whether I'm big enough to be that person.
Sigh.
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