Posted by orchid on December 27, 2005, at 5:03:24
In reply to Re: Help me please, re: ex-T » orchid, posted by Susan47 on December 26, 2005, at 23:31:58
I can understand the anger. But why would you want yourself in the possible custody of a police?
Even if the 3 rd party hears, I think there are very high chances for them to tilt in favor of your Ex T. Because usually people tend to favor people who are in respected positions like Ts/psychiatrists etc. And if he has tapes of you calling him when you were in a not so sane mood, then most likely they will judge in his favor. True, he might have to hear what you are saying, but I am positive he already has heard, already understands your pain, already knows what he did is wrong, but yet won't take actions to correct it. He probably did behave somewhat of a jerk with you, and he probably will continue to be so. All otherwise good men are capable of being complete *ssholes when needed for them and when they see fit. Maybe your T is showing that part of his to you.
And when a 3 rd party listens to the calls, unless proved of some offensive behavior on your Ts part like actually maybe having sex with you or soemthing like that, your T will pass through the judgement just fine. He has done what seems to be right under the current model of therapy which is advocated. HE didn't do anything wrong according to ethical board. He was perhaps incompetent, but there usually is not punishment for incompetency. Sad, but true.
I hope you can convince yourself that your Ex T perhaps is a jerk, and that you deserve something better for yourself.
> Well see the thing is, that I'm not really embarrassed. You said I would only end up embarrassing myself further, but I don't really feel embarrassed.
> I dont' know why.. I feel justified. I feel like now that he's said he has a third party screening the calls, finally, at least they HAVE to be listened to now, and he HAS to finally HEAR what is being said, not just the fact that the calls are being made.
> I never thought a person could or would purposely be so ignorant, as this person .. I need to learn to let go, and stop trying to make someone good and honorable who could care two sh*ts about those things .. I'm very angry, Orchid, I'm very angry with him.. still.
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