Posted by Tamar on December 14, 2005, at 4:28:41
In reply to Falling for my T, posted by Blue Tulip on December 13, 2005, at 22:59:26
Hello Blue Tulip, and welcome to Babble!
> I've been reading posts on this sight for the last few days. There seems to be a lot of drama here but I am going to take a chance and post my story so you can get to know me a little.
Hmm… the current drama is actually very unusual! I’m sure it will all calm down soon.
> I would like to share some of the things I am going through with others that understand "therapy issues". And hopefuly get some of your perspectives.
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> I'm a female,married with one child and have been in therapy with a male T for the last year.
> My husband and I are also in marriage therapy to deal with our deteriorating marriage.
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> The thing that I am interested in learning more about here is the relationship dynamics between a female patient and male T.What sort of things would you like to learn about?
> I have gotten to the point where feel like I am falling for my T.....hard.
Ouch! Yes, I’ve been there… Actually, I’m still there…
> I know this is something that happens to a lot of women. But it's the first time it is happening to me. I didn't expect this. I feel rattled but extremely alive.
I had no idea what was going on when it happened to me. I thought I’d fallen in love. And then it turned there was a special word for it. Ha! I’m rebelling by referring to all my previous experiences of falling in love as ‘transference’ e.g., “When I met my husband ten years ago and began to experience transference…”
> So,.....here I am on a web site talking about it.
> Because where else could I share these things safely?Yeah, it’s good to have the anonymity, isn’t it?
I think falling in love with a therapist can be a beautiful and wonderful thing. It can also be painful and frustrating. Have you told your therapist about your feelings? If not, do you think you will?
Tamar
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