Posted by Pfinstegg on December 4, 2005, at 10:19:33
In reply to Re: therapist outside of office setting, posted by daisym on December 3, 2005, at 23:50:34
I also agree completely with orchid and daisy. You have a very positive therapeutic alliance with him, which is now including sexual feelings. That's wonderful- IF you use all these things to benefit your own growth, both sexually and in all the other ways.
But, remember, your therapy and feelings are all about YOU; they are not supposed to be about him. Whatever positive feelings, including sexual ones, that he may have for you should be dealt with in a professional way- by him, but for your own growth, emotional safety and well-being. That's a lot harder to do that acting out feelings.
It does feel so wonderful and exciting, especially in the context of an empty marriage, but how can it possibly be helpful to you to go down that road? It feels wonderful, now, but, if mutual enactments were actually to occur, it could hurt you an awful lot.
Can you take it as the wonderful affirmation of you that it is-and work your way through it by talking about it as fully as possible?
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