Posted by daisym on December 1, 2005, at 18:38:49
In reply to Wrecked in therapy yesterday, posted by Racer on December 1, 2005, at 12:49:34
I'm sorry Racer, mom stuff is way hard. Especially when we have a relationship with them on one level that is pretty OK. I know I want something from my mom I'll never get. I just don't know how to stop wanting that.
I don't know whether my mother was self-centered or terrified of my dad (he never hit her, he was just verbally abusive to her)or terrified of being alone to care for 4 kids. Whatever the reason, she loved us but her focus was on external care. And when they finally divorced, it stayed that way. I think she was doing the best she could.
I hope you find some peace with self-approval that replaces that need for maternal approval. It is a tough road and painful as hell to work through. I'm not there yet. But I can listen and sympathize.
(((Racer)))
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