Posted by allisonross on December 1, 2005, at 13:47:34
In reply to Wrecked in therapy yesterday, posted by Racer on December 1, 2005, at 12:49:34
Hi, sweetie: Hey, didn't we go to different schools together? My mother (I always thought) was/is the poster-child for narcissism. In the dictionary, there is an asterisk, followed by a note to "See {put mother's name, here]"
I realized a very long time ago, tht I could NEVER get what i wanted/needed from her...
And so (sad as it is), reality bites.
I've been resourceful, and made my friends my "family." They are the ones who care, share and love mel
I always thought it was so ironic. The people that "should" have loved me (mother, ex-husband, 2 grown children); Did/do NOT.
The people who don't "have" to love me (friends), DO.
My mother was a witch on wheels (horrifically violent and abusive), and yet I try (it ain't easy being queasy, LOL) to treat her well (it's a little easier being 1,000 miles away, too ya know).
I was the best mother I knew how to be, and my kids ignore me.
Ain't life hilarious.
It is human nature to always want a parents' approval (I never knew my father), just had "mommie dearest"
But, we cannot get something outta nuthing.
Not too helpful, eh?
Just thinking about it wears you down, eh?!
Hugs and Love, Alice (Maybe we should start a "Children of Narcissists" Club?!
Grins
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