Posted by Pfinstegg on November 29, 2005, at 22:51:48
In reply to Re: NEXT STEPS » Pfinstegg, posted by happyflower on November 29, 2005, at 19:28:35
Although I havn't posted too much, I've been following your posts with a lot of interest and admiration. i just think it's great how much better you got in just a year! (for me, I'm getting there, but not so quickly).
My husband and I have faced some of the same challenges: when one person changes, the other one often feels very threatened, even though it is a healthy change. My own husband became quite hostile, as I became more lively and independent, but, I'm so glad to say, he sought treatment for himself, and we are doing so much better now.
I've never had the slightest negative feeling about your feelings about your therapist. I have the same ones about mine (he's gorgeous!), and I think the intensity of them has somehow brought about a lot of growth and joy in life for me. My T, though, has a lovely wife, whom I have seen, and so there was no way around it all other than to deal with it- over time. It wouldn'thave been right, either- it's just that one's feelings can get so strong- overpowering, really! I think every situation is different: there ARE people who have gone on to have in-life relationships with their therapists. Frieda Fromm Reichmann, who was very highly thought of (and still is) married her patient Erich Fromm, after treating him for six months! But, in general, it's much better if it doesn't happen.
Whatever happens, I hope you feel confident tht there are people here on the boards who understand, and would never judge you negatively- me, for example!
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