Posted by 10derHeart on November 25, 2005, at 16:55:48
In reply to Re: Just for now.... » 10derHeart, posted by annierose on November 16, 2005, at 5:02:26
> (((((((((10der))))))))
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> You don't sound silly at all. One part of your relationship is changing and change is hard. Did your T reply back to your e-mails, or were you writing to him, sort of like a journal, telling him what was going on in your life and things that were bothering you?Almost always wrote back, most times something quite substantial, too. I so, so looked forward to it. Both for the attention and contact, and for the substance.
> He must be feeling that he is spending a good portion of his time reading all these e-mails from clients and now wants those feelings right there in the room with him --- in session.
No...and yes :-) No, 'cause I've found out I was the only one ever in his whole career (triggers tomns of stuff to talk about around being special and unique to him, and now, maybeI'm not(?) arghhh!)
Yes, 'cause he definitely was VERY worried we had these two separate things going sise-by-side, and needed to meld them back together and get them back into the room. You're so right there.
> You will get through this. I'm glad you are telling him how hurt you feel.
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> Keep writing here or journaling --- it really does help to get your feelings out.Oh boy am I telling him! I think the healing is already starting because he's taking the hurt and anger so very well. Not totally accepting every mean thing I say without comment or explanation....but still taking responsibility while standing firm in his convictions.
I see myself learning over and over I can be VERY mad at someone important AND tell them so. Even mean, uncalled for, unreasonable stuff, and we can still reamin close and connected. Wow! This is a HUGE lesson for me that I want to learn.
Thanks, annie. Your post was so sweet, calming and grounding to me that day :-)
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