Posted by Tamar on October 26, 2005, at 14:20:56
In reply to Re: Thinking of canceling my next session, posted by happyflower on October 26, 2005, at 12:51:21
> I think he shouldn't come to my concert. What do you think?
(((((Happyflower)))))
Since you ask, here’s what I think: I think you should call him and see if you can get an appointment before the one in 8 days. And if you can’t see him, maybe you could talk to him on the phone.
It’s really hard going so long without therapy, particularly when things are difficult at home. I think you need to tell him how angry you’re feeling and how you’re fed up with trying.
> I think he should spend time with his special people in his life like his friends and family. I am not special to him. He told me he was going to treat me just like he treats all of his clients. So if he came to my concert, wouldn't that be treating me special?
Insofar as he probably takes professional and personal pride in the achievements of his clients, I don’t think it would mean he was breaking any boundaries of specialness. But insofar as you’re probably the only one of his clients who’s in a concert, then yes, I guess it does mean he thinks you’re special.
> I don't want the mixed message there. I just want him to leave me alone so I can forget about him, another person who leaves me.
It sounds to me as if you’re finding this month between appointments just too hard. It doesn’t have to be that hard. I know you’re angry at him, but can you call him and tell him how you’re feeling?
> My parents didn't come to my concerts growing up, because I was nothing to them, why should my T come to my concert?
I’m so sorry your parents didn’t go to your concerts. I was in some concerts when I was growing up and my father often couldn’t make it because of work, and I remember feeling hurt about it. So I can imagine the idea of your T coming to this concert is a really big deal for you.
> I am just sick of everything good in my life always turning to SH#T. Sorry I am venting here, but I hate my life, I hate getting close to anyone, because they will always disapoint me. My T is no different. If I thought I would get attached to him, I would have never tried therapy. I am tired of losing everyone. I am tied of even trying anymore, the hurt isn't worth it.
I’m sorry you’re hurting and frustrated and disappointed.
I really hope you’ll call him.
Tamar
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