Posted by Tamar on October 26, 2005, at 5:42:00
In reply to Re: What's the difference between..., posted by alexandra_k on October 25, 2005, at 19:30:47
> i think sometimes we need to grieve for stuff.
> grieving can be healing.
> you can process that.
> and a result is that you feel a bit better
> and the memories etc are less likely to be invasive at inconvenient times.
>
> but hard to strike the difference between that and wallowing...Exactly. That’s what I’m not sure about.
> i tend to do both i think.
> but the latter...
> is when i'm doing the head circle thing
> and i end up feeling worse rather than better.I think my own head circle thing is a way of avoiding the pain. I don’t really feel it. I find ways of rationalising it or ways of blaming myself, or even ways of feeling that life is unfair… but actually feeling the pain is something I find hard to do. And when I do it I’m sure I’m wallowing. And maybe I am…
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