Posted by daisym on October 20, 2005, at 12:51:13
In reply to Today's installment..., posted by Racer on October 19, 2005, at 23:18:33
***And we did talk about it, too. We're maybe on the way to getting somewhere. That's because I've decided I don't have to be 'fixed' on any specific schedule. (Note to Daisy: you proud of me for that one?) I can wait until next week to be perfect.***
I'm am totally proud of you!!! But I have to point out (Oh so gently) that you still indicate that you need/have to be "fixed." I'm not sure that is true.
I think my issue is a slight twist, I live in constant fear that people are going to discover/recognize/acknowledge and then be angry about, the fact that I'm not perfect, I'm a fraud and then they will hate me. Even if they say they 'know' I'm not perfect, and even if I say I 'know' I'm not perfect, we all expect me to be anyway.
And as far as the physical response to anxiety. You are describing what happens to my son. I swear it looks like a diabetic reaction, and he says it feels like he is going to throw up and then melt into a puddle right then and there. It took us a long time to figure out his trigger and actually we focused in (using biofeedback) on what his first physical symptom is so he can begin to incorporate his calming techniques immediately, even if he doesn't know yet what is bothering him. He figured out that he begins to mouth breathe, taking shallow breathes. And then his fingers tingle and go cold. It happens quickly, it isn't like there are hours between symptoms. But if he can catch the breathing and force himself to deep breathe, he doesn't go all the way into the panic of it.
Everyone in our house also uses preventive breathing. The rule: everytime you glance at a clock or your watch, you take a deep cleansing breath. It really does work.
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