Posted by Dinah on October 3, 2005, at 15:07:50
In reply to Feeling sad to leave, posted by orchid on October 3, 2005, at 14:08:06
My thoughts are that you have every right and reason to feel angry. There aren't many women in this country who would agree to leave their job to live with their inlaws. It is very reasonable to be angry at what you are leaving and to blame the immediate cause of it (your husband).
That being said, I also think it's probably not too productive or good for *you* to continue to think in those terms. Once you've made the decision that this is what you wanted to do, if not in its entirety then at least in comparison to the alternatives, I think it would be most useful for *you* if you think of it as a decision you made. That you wanted to make because the alternatives were even worse.
That too being said, I must confess that although I'm having a lot of similar "choices" right now, and am trying to follow my own advice, I'm also whining a whole lot.
(I'm sorry to see you leave as well.)
poster:Dinah
thread:562352
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