Posted by Damos on August 24, 2005, at 17:57:47
In reply to I really want to see my t..., posted by alexandra_k on August 24, 2005, at 16:34:26
They're a bugger aren't they? So hard to find the middle ground sometimes. And you're probably right it may well be different sides of the same coin.
I know it's easier said than done but try just to observe the emotions not attach to them. Not being numb anymore doesn't have to mean being clingy. It's just another corner of the same room. You're moving the furniture around in there but it's still not quite right. As bad as it feels right now, it may actually be really good, this feeling that you want to connect with her again. Just try to know in your heart that you've done it now and you can do it again, and that just because you can't see her, you aren't going to lose that connection. It's like a really long piece of elastic.
Losing the numbness is a HUGE thing and it's only reasonable that it will set off a bit of wobbliness for a while, because the feelling is so strange, and because not being numb lets all this other stuff in too. Get out, have a coffee with someone if you can, bask in the absence of numbness. Go and have cheesecake to celebrate what you achieved because it's big. The absence of the numbness isn't dependant on her. It's about you, it's in you, it's miraculous and wonderful.
poster:Damos
thread:546157
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20050824/msgs/546200.html