Posted by Dinah on August 18, 2005, at 23:49:29
In reply to *crushed*, posted by jadah on August 18, 2005, at 18:14:15
So you are continuing to see your new therapist? I'm glad. It's not lazy to not want to start over again in explaining yourself and your life. I think that's pretty common. But a fresh viewpoint might make it worth the hard work. We've heard a lot of stories where it was.
Obviously you can't see your old therapist as your therapist. He doesn't play that role in your life anymore. (And I certainly hope you aren't paying him.) If you need someone to talk to therapeutically, it *can't* be him. He's your lover, not your therapist.
He's been lying to his wife about what he's doing with his time for a while now. I'm sorry he's started lying to you as well. Especially at a time when you need his support so badly.
I'm sorry you're being hurt, and I'm sorry he didn't live up to his obligations to you to keep up the boundaries. (Not to mention his obligations to his other clients, his profession, and his marriage.)
I wish there were an easy solution. Or one that would cause you little pain.
I wish there was something I could say or do that would help, but I'm at a total loss.
poster:Dinah
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