Posted by madeline on August 14, 2005, at 10:26:43
In reply to scared of not ever finding relief- *triggering****, posted by frida on August 13, 2005, at 10:22:54
Frida,
I am going throuh the exact same thing and I know the pain you feel. I wish I could help you.
I realized a little while ago that my therapist will never be my father. Not only that, but no one else is ever going to be my father ever again. That time for me is past. I missed what I needed as a child, I don't get a "do over" and that is that.
I held a long belief that a gandalf type man would come in on his horse and take me away. He could magically erase all that has happened to me and I would be absolutely safe and loved for the rest of my life.
It's not going to happen.The grief is overwhelming. But we have to grieve that loss.
Allow yourself to feel compassion for your own pain and try not to lose hope.
After all, the belief of the therapist as a parent is false hope.
Now you have a chance for real hope and real recovery.
(((Frida))))
poster:madeline
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