Posted by daisym on August 10, 2005, at 1:28:03
In reply to Re: Sigh (long) » messadivoce, posted by Damos on August 9, 2005, at 22:52:32
I got this flash as I was reading your post of a young child reacting to falling down. She is angry and might lash out at you, but if you look closer you can see that she is actually hurt and embarrassed. I'm not suggesting that you sound like a child, just that the anger you express seems laced with some other, deeper emotions. It is really hard, isn't it? It makes you wonder if they ever meant anything they said, and what, if anything, you can do to show them you are hurting. Yet, who wants to be that vulnerable to the person who caused the hurt?
I think this is where you hold on to the good things that came out of your therapy and let go of the rest. Maybe have a little closure ceremony for yourself - burn emails or write a final letter. It can't be good for you if you are continually being bruised with the contact you are getting. Eventually the negative stuff will completely overwhelm the positive stuff, if it hasn't already.
I'm sorry you are hurting. The whole thing stinks.
Hang in there.
Daisy
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