Posted by Tamar on August 7, 2005, at 16:13:06
In reply to Re: I still want to be friends with my therapist » Tamar, posted by Dinah on August 6, 2005, at 22:10:47
> Many of my friends have been men, and I understand what you mean. (Except that I have absolutely no desire to have my therapist as a friend.)Maybe I wouldn’t have this desire if I’d been seeing him for ten years, or if I had lots of other male friends around! I think it’s just another aspect of the transference…
> Well, clearly you need to find some male friends. Hmmm... I know that that can be difficult sometimes. My best male friend's significant others all seem to have trouble with the concept of male/female friendship. I don't understand it myself. My husband has a couple of female friends and it doesn't bother me. And he never minded my having male friends.
Fortunately my husband has no problem with it. He has lots of female friends. But of course I’d have to find male friends with understanding partners.
> Oh, I'm no use as help in this.
You’re always helpful!
>I can never manage to make friends that well. My husband and I are always looking for good "couple friends" and gosh darn it!, that seems to be harder than finding a spouse. :(
I know what you mean about ‘couple friends’… it’s hard to find two people who are both interesting to both of you.
Maybe I should put an ad in the paper:
Woman 35 professional married with kids seeks man any age, appearance irrelevant, for talk about books movies and politics but no sex or romance.I shouldn’t complain, though. I have some wonderful female friends (including those at Babble!).
Tamar
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