Posted by Damos on August 5, 2005, at 0:24:09
In reply to Yesterday I walked down my ex-T's street, posted by Susan47 on August 4, 2005, at 19:42:59
Three quotes for you Susan, though I am loath to use others' words:
"We who lived in the concentration camps can remember the men who walked thoughout the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken away form a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given circumstance, to choose one's own way." Victor Frankel
"Nothing can make you feel inferior without your consent" Eleanor Roosavelt
"They cannot take away our self-respect if we do not give it to them." Mahatma Gandhi
You are better than these feelings, and so much more than these feelings, and your sense of self doesn't depend on his approval. Not now, not ever. The phone calls, the need to see and be seen by him are a pattern, a pattern of pain, a pattern you seek out because of it's very familiarity. If you can break the pattern just once, you'll never look back and you'll wonder how you stayed stuck here for so long. He had his chance to SEE you and he missed it completely and messed it up royally. HE is NOT going to HELP you. So it's your choice, a horribly painful choice, but one only you can make. Do you want to be the strong, beautiful, incredible woman everyone at babble knows you can be?
You know I love you Susan, you also know a large part of my story. Well Katie's mum is my equivalent of your T. 18 years it took me to break that pattern of belief and behaviour, and you if anyone knows how far I've come in the short time I've been at babble. You can do this. Take your life back. You have no idea how many people are cheering you on at this very moment because they've seen you come close before and they want so much for you to make it, and they know what you're capable of and how much you've helped them. You can do this. And when you do, all the amazing passion and love that's there inside you will be set free.
Yeah I know it's all easy fot me to say. So feel free to scream !@%$^&^$##@~%^$#%$ off Damos as many times as it takes, rage at me if it helps. No matter what you choose or what happens tomorrow, I love you Susan and you'll always be a very special and cherished friend.
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