Posted by pinkeye on August 3, 2005, at 17:09:48
In reply to Re: Where to go from here?? » pinkeye, posted by shrinking violet on August 3, 2005, at 15:18:12
Thanks SV.
My current T won't give me her email id. She doesn't use emails at all, and has never given it to any clients before. And she says she only checks her email once in a while at her work in a hospital, and she is not email savvy. And she doesn't want to repeat what happened with my ex psychiatrist. If I have her email, then I would be very tempted to write to her, and will get frustrated when she delays replying, or replies shortly. And she thinks, it is very important for me to get a full closure this time to heal from my issues with my psychiatrist and be able to move on. And I think she is right.
I won't find another T in India. They won't help me in the way I need to be helped. They will only give me logical answers, and those - I know already anyway. I need someone to give me emotional understanding. And it won't happen in India.
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> I'm sorry to hear you won't be around much...your presence here will be missed.
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> You sure have a lot going on now, and I'm concerned about your potential lack of support during this phase of change. Why must you cut off contact with your current t? Would it be possible to check in via phone or email every few weeks during this time, until you are settled in India and see how things turn out? It seems a lot to deal with so suddenly on one's own (or perhaps I'm projecting some of my own feelings on this issue).
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> Otherwise, you should at least try to find a T in India who you can work with. I have a friend who is from India, and you seem to be accurate in how they portray mental illnesses. But, there are always exceptions, and maybe there is one T there who goes against the grain, so-to-speak.
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> Good luck and take care.
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> > Tomorrow, I am going to terminate with my current T. And I won't be able to see her after that.
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> > I will also be doing a phased shift to India, and may not have that much access to internet and computers for quite a while.. I might have some intermittent access, but I am not really sure. So I won't have babbles support as well.
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> > And my ex T hadn't written to me for 7 months now, and I don't think he will ever write again.
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> > My current T says I should find someone in India and continue to work on my CSA issues. She really thinks that is the key problem I still have. She says, I still haven't felt angry or resolved the feelings. I don't know how to access my anger.. And she says I have lot of anxiety still, and insecurities.
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> > But I won't find someone in India willing to do in depth emotional therapy. They would dismiss me in the first appt as being all fine - because I talk well, and even if I tell anyone repeatedly I have problems, I am going to be dismissed lightly or told something like "try to focus your mind on something else useful". And it won't work for me - becuase I do feel bad and while I can focus my mind on something else and can occupy my mind with other things (as I already do anyway), I still want to really heal myself, and I won't get the indepth support from anyone.
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> > And I will have to adjust to different things there - adjust to living with my in laws, and dealing with my father again and his interference in my life. And I am little terrified of how I am going to handle everyone and everything.
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