Posted by fairywings on July 25, 2005, at 18:09:48
In reply to Re: Update *might trigger*, posted by AuntieMel on July 25, 2005, at 17:45:32
> mine did it the other way.
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> To me: You're so smart, why can't you be studious like your sister?
> To her: You study hard, too bad you aren't as smart as your sister.We got a lot of the jealousy game too, as well as my mom. He remarried later in life, and played the games with me, trying to make me jealous of her kids, and treated her grandchild better than my kids, to try to make me jealous. It's funny, when I quit responding, he quit doing it, but only with me because I was the only one who figured it out. Of course it took me well over 20 years to do that, but.....
Mine did a LOT of mean teasing too. With the kids and the pets. And pitted us all against each other.
> He also gave us some pretty good belt whippings. That's when I first learned not to cry. He would keep up until the kid cried, but I was too stubborn. <grin>
Yeah, they think they're so smart trying to get us to cry, good thing they couldn't see the inside, huh?
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> And cold. If he deigned to let a kid (even the grandkids) on his lap, he acted like it was an alien, put up with it for a minute or so and then he was done. Or he'd play for a couple of and then abrubtly stop. And get angry if the kid didn't understand 'stop' and wanted to keep on.Same thing with my dad. Very, very cold. I'm glad your mom was able to divorce and recover. Other than the mother, it sounds like we had the same father. My mom just got to be more and more bitter. Can't blame her.
FW
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