Posted by AuntieMel on July 25, 2005, at 17:45:32
In reply to Re: Update *might trigger* » AuntieMel, posted by fairywings on July 25, 2005, at 17:09:12
mine did it the other way.
To me: You're so smart, why can't you be studious like your sister?
To her: You study hard, too bad you aren't as smart as your sister.My sister and I grew up hating (ok, strongly disliking) each other. We later learned to point the anger where it belonged and get along great.
He also gave us some pretty good belt whippings. That's when I first learned not to cry. He would keep up until the kid cried, but I was too stubborn. <grin>
And cold. If he deigned to let a kid (even the grandkids) on his lap, he acted like it was an alien, put up with it for a minute or so and then he was done. Or he'd play for a couple of and then abrubtly stop. And get angry if the kid didn't understand 'stop' and wanted to keep on.
My poor mom was just as afraid of him as we were. She spent years in and out of hospitals for depression, but finally they divorced and she got better.
I don't mention the physical abuse as much because it didn't leave the same scars.
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