Posted by Dinah on July 20, 2005, at 5:54:48
In reply to Interesting Questions for ya'll???, posted by LadyBug on July 19, 2005, at 23:42:59
If it all turns out tragically in the end, I'd probably change my opinion.
But right now, I look to the schizoid almost aspergerish person I was even a few years ago. When my therapist asked me to name my feelings, and gave me a list of them, with little faces for each, I still said "upset" or "ok" were my feelings most of the time. He'd tear out his hair trying to tell me that "upset" and "ok" weren't feelings. But sure they were. I felt them all the time!
It's because of his influence that I ever started to Babble. And because of him and Babble that I ever got the desire to relate to the strange critters called humans rather than the much easier to get along with dogs that I had as friends.And if he did nothing else as a therapist, he got me to recognize a couple of important things that had eluded me. That the only person I had power over was myself. That my responsibility stretched only so far. And that I was enmeshed with my family of origin, and there were ways to separate while still maintaining a relationship and fulfilling my duty to them.
I am a slow learner, and it wasn't until after years of drilling those things in my head that I incorporated them. I think that maybe gives him hope about the things he's still trying to drill in my head.
Yeah, I'd do it all over again. But only with a milky breasted therapist who sat in his own seat and felt receptive and open but with a solid core.
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