Posted by messadivoce on July 20, 2005, at 0:12:09
In reply to Interesting Questions for ya'll???, posted by LadyBug on July 19, 2005, at 23:42:59
<How many wish you had NEVER been in therapy??>
I've thought, "Gee it would have been so much easier if I had never met him" but I know that's not true. SOME things would be easier. But life as a whole would be so much more difficult.
<Do you have regrets???>
I regret that I never could cry in front of him. I regret that we didn't get to continue our therapy through to its natural conclusion.
<Has it helped you??>
Yes. It has made me a stronger, more compassionate person. To myself first, and then to others second. I like myself better. I appreciate myself more, and I give myself a break when I need it. It helped me see my parents as imperfect people.
<Has it hurt you??>
Yes, yes, and a thousand times yes. And it still hurts. Every day when I wake up and live my life without him, it hurts a little. I will probably miss him the rest of my life.
<Has it made you feel worse about yourself or better about yourself??>
I felt terrible about myself when I started, and while it got worse before it got better, it certainly helped me see my value as a person.
<Did you get all that you wanted out of it??>
NO NO NO. I wanted him to be my father. I wanted excuses to be close to him, and hug him, to always have him available to me, to be able to bottle up all his kindness and compassion and bring it back whenever I needed it. I wanted his wife to drop dead so I could marry him and have a perfect life.
But there is a deep and unending compassion he gave me that I now give to myself. That's not everything, but it's something.
<Would you recommend it to others??>
Yes, and I have, but with a few caveats. Do your homework!! Be informed. Ask questions. And trust your gut, at least for the first few sessions.
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