Posted by pinkeye on July 12, 2005, at 13:17:07
In reply to Re Borderline replies, ShortE and Pinkeye, posted by rabble_rouser on July 12, 2005, at 6:01:24
>>>Can I ask, do women expect men to be naturally emotionally strong? Do they ever feel disdain for a man that exhibits weakness, like lack of emotional control, blowing up etc? What gives the appearance of 'being a man'? Humour? Body language? Even-handedness? I have a very dry sense of humour which can come off rude - this gets me into trouble quite often too `:(
I would say no. Atleast I don't. In fact almost all my male friends have cried to me at sometime or the other.. and I don't think less of them. My husband cries quite a bit too - maybe not as often as I, but he has cried atleast maybe 20 - 30 times in these past four years.. And I don't think less of him for that. My father has recently cried several several times.
When I was a kid and young adult, I used to like guys who are arrogant, not emotional at all, angry, defensive and proud.. I used to think these qualities are very manly. But once I became 20, these things didn't matter to me much. I was more attracted to people who are sensitive, emotional, and vulnerable themselves.
But these was this friend of mine, who used to cry all the time, and used to whine like a girl, and used to get hurt too much by women all the time, was extremely emotional and somehow I didn't like him.. I didn't quite think of him as a man.. Even for a woman, he would have been probably considered to be a whiny, and too emotional. So maybe if you are all the time crying, and being too vulnerable and not strong, maybe women won't like you..
But vulnerability combined with strength is what is very attractive.
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