Posted by pinkeye on July 11, 2005, at 14:09:53
In reply to Re: Post to ShortE re borderline personality disorder, posted by rabble_rouser on July 11, 2005, at 13:59:37
What you have observed is true.. But not so much as "What is in it for me".. But more to do with one's own pace in the journey of life.
For instance, when you are depressed and not so joyful, you are more likely to travel in the slower lanes of traffic in life - so to speak.. We don't want to do too many things, or go to movies or eat out, or read, or enjoy things in general.. We don't work well, not that optimistic etc. And we generally want to lead a dull and slow life.. want to be idle many times, sit and think about things, ruminate, cry even, worry more etc.. Those come with a depressive attitude. And typically life becomes slower..
When you are happy, and cheerful, you want to do all the things which you would not do when you are depressed.. go here and there, party, have fun, watch movies, talk to friends, socialize all the time, go to games etc.. So your pace in life is fast..
We tend to associate with people who lead their lives at nearly the same rate as us. Like, if we are driving at 40 miles per hour, then we stick to the right lanes.. but if we drive at 80 miler per hour, driving in the right lane is boring and slow.. and you tend to stick to the left lanes.. Taht is what happens in life. When you are depressed, you tend to take the slow lane in life, and you need to be with other people who are slow as well.. When we are cheerful, we tend to go towards the fast lane and you will leave people out in the slow lanes and move on..
In an ideal situation, your speed and your friend's speed will be constant, so you will always be with the same group. But that doesn't happen in real world. And it is even more pronounced for people like me who tend to shift gears all the time from slow to fast and back to slow and back to fast.. My friend has a real tough time sometimes with me.. But I explain to her what I am going throguh and ask her to leave me alone when I am in the slow lanes.. When I rebound, I always pick it up again with her, so we have managed to be friends for nearly 12 years even with my mood swings.
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