Posted by cricket on July 5, 2005, at 15:39:23
In reply to I need to find an old thread., posted by Dinah on July 5, 2005, at 13:57:59
Dinah,
This is good for me to think about too because as you know I've been thinking that it is time for me to cut back on therapy.
So what do I feel like I would lose?
Someone (perhaps not the only person) who thinks more of me than I think of myself.
Someone (the only person) who knows the way my mind works.
Someone (the only person) who knows I've had a really rough life and have done the best I can with what I've been handed.
Someone (the only person) who knows a little bit about what went on in my childhood.
Someone (certainly not the only person) who has the same religious beliefs I do and someone (the only person right now) I talk to about these same beliefs.
Someone (the only person) that I cry in front of, even though I don't feel comfortable doing that.
Someone (the only person) that I consistently dream about.
Someone (the only person except my son) who would like to see me happier because he cares.
Is this any of the loss you are feeling? In some ways though this list is all intellectual and what you are describing is perhaps more visceral. Is it the emotional holding that you sometimes talk about?
And I do think he knows what you are losing. Perhaps he's just playing good parent. You don't say to a child that wants to break away a little bit, "Oh but honey, it's mean horrible world out there. No one will ever understand you and take care of you like I do." You say, "It's okay. Go ahead. I'm here if you need me." Could that be why he is playing dumb? He doesn't want you to lose faith in those wings before you even try them out.
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