Posted by Tamar on July 3, 2005, at 13:11:08
In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected » Tamar, posted by pinkeye on June 29, 2005, at 19:06:32
> Also another thing that I remembered you when I read Courage to Heal other than the sandwich example which I gave above.
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> Basically, the book said, if you are eating a sandwich, you cannot prevent your stomach from digesting it. So it said, that when you are raped or abused, you cannot stop yourself from experiencing some pleasure - that is the basic functionality of your sexual parts, and you cannot stop that - anymore than you can stop your stomach from digesting a sandwich.
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> I was thinking that suppose we are forced to drink a poison, our stomach is still going to digest it and our blood stream is going to absorb it right? Can you hate your body for that? Similarly, think of the rape and the associated guilt that you have over your body. It was fed a poison, but it did what it was always supposed to do - to react.That makes sense. It's sometimes difficult to separate the shame from the pleasure. I wish I could just erase the whole thing. But I guess there's no point wanting the impossible!
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